How To Avoid Oversharing Your Divorce
One of the best things about living in Alabama is that everyone seems to have the gift of gab. If you strike up a conversation with the person in front of you in line at the supermarket every time you go shopping, by the end of a month you will have found out which stores have the best prices on every item, plus recipes and cooking hacks that your favorite YouTube chefs never thought of. It stands to reason that not everyone is so naturally outgoing; inevitably, some of them have to fake it ‘til they make it. The trouble with extraversion is that, once you have launched the chatterbox app in your brain, it’s hard to turn it off. When you are going through a divorce, you want to tell people how you feel, but you remember that, if you don’t have anything nice to say, you shouldn’t say anything at all. You feel like your only options are stern silence fit for the New York subway, on the one hand, and social media drama queen oversharing, on the other. This internal conflict is even worse when your job requires a lot of interpersonal interaction. To get through the conversations you must face, take a few deep breaths and get through it one conversation at a time. To get closer to your post-divorce new normal, contact a Birmingham divorce lawyer.
Not Saying Things You Don’t Mean Is a Worthwhile Investment
On the one hand, pretending that negative emotions don’t exist is not healthy for you or your children. Find someone in your life in whom you can confide about your feelings, whether it is a family member, a friend, or a mental health counselor. Tell your children an age-appropriate version of what you are feeling; you are sad about your divorce, too, and you feel the stress of adjusting to a new life, but don’t go into details about how your ex hurt you. Encourage your kids to talk about your feelings, and listen without judgment. Saying negative things about your ex will count against you in a parenting plan dispute.
Compile a List of Talking Points, and Take It With You Everywhere
Divorce is stressful, and even if you normally love to socialize, you are not in the mood for small talk. Still, it is inevitable at work, at the hair salon, and at your children’s sports practices. Make a list in your mind of things you want to talk about with your coworkers or the other parents in your community. Talk about cooking, favorite TV shows, even local politics, anything but your divorce.
Trust That the Truth Will Eventually Prevail
It is hard to stay silent when you feel like your ex is trying to show the world, and especially your kids, that he is a better parent than you and to make you look like a neurotic gold digger. There will come a time, though, when you can tell people the whole truth about your divorce. You just have to wait until a few more seasons of your favorite show have come and gone, and you have discussed them with the parents of your kids’ classmates.
Contact Peeples Law About Getting a Divorce When Everyone Is Looking
A Birmingham family law attorney can help you stop your divorce from getting so messy that it damages your career and family relationships. Contact Peeples Law today to schedule a consultation.
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